HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS
"No human can ever live as an island, there definitely will be a time where you will need to speak to someone" . These were words that kept running through my mind as I walked out of a leadership seminar some time ago. Then I thought, what happens to introverts, the people who are very reserved or love to be by themselves? Is it a matter of inferiority complex or what?
Humans are such that we are responsible for our every actions and even inactions be it being alone or in an organization working with other people. Different people work together to achieve a common goal. That's to say we are to communicate, brainstorm, criticize and so on in order to attain a particular objective.
When one says interactions, there exists healthy and unhealthy interactions. But even before that, interactions is all about some form of relationship that exists to allow people work together to achieve a common goal. Even though there exists intrapersonal activities, what we have mostly is interpersonal interactions. Sometimes people act in such a way that you get confused as their true intentions but in order to get rid of this confusion, there are ways one can enhance good relationships with others.
To begin with,there should be an open communication. More often than not, we come into contact with different people and they all do not have the same attitude. It could be that people for the fear of others taking advantage of their "niceness" tend to always keep a straight face. Open communication is to avail yourself so that people can approach you when the need arises.
Then comes listening. As a human being, we are advised to talk less and listen more. If you are to be in charge of anything, it does not warrant you to always be shouting orders at people that your utterances go unquestioned. It can't be like that always. Should you live a life like that people will not be willing to go the extra mile for you and in order to get things done and done properly, some people have to take it upon themselves to sacrifice for the well being of whatever is at hand.
Then comes tolerance and respect. As said early on, humans vary when it comes to attitude but in order to ensure a healthy interaction, there must be tolerance and respect. Should someone even offend you, there should be a nice way to go about it. Everyone has a rainy day but how we handle it a long way to affect our interactions with others
Getting personal with people is yet another way to enhance healthy interactions. Getting personal in this sense does not mean to get too intimate with each other. There should be free will or oneness. People happen to be in places where for a long time, they barely speak any words to each other let alone get together for some good time or even to know how each other is faring. Work to be done does not always mean that one should have a stern look or always be in a business mood. Studies in psychology have shown that being all strict or stern creates intimidation and work cannot go on smoothly. There is the need to lighten the mood once in a while, shake off some stress so people can feel at ease to do what is expected of them.
Should one find oneself in any organization, it might be that you won't be there forever. Even if things happen to be bad, speak no evil of it because you never know when things will change. Inasmuch as it might be "bad", work out what you have to do, carve a niche for yourself then of any opportunity comes up to better yourself move ahead with it. It is far better than always speaking evil and then come some time, you are discovered and sacked! That will be too much of embarrassment for yourself. Everywhere one finds oneself will at a later time be a reference point come sometime. Egos are boosted or deflated based on how we interact with others. Everybody loves attention hence interaction with people will definitely go a long way to affect you.
Someone might ask, so what is the way forward then? Well we all have got roles to play and amidst it all, we should try to be conscious about working in teams, try getting to know each other better, hangout with others, celebrate people openly but rebuke in private and then be free or open but mindful of boundaries.
Every human being has a personal dignity and it has to be taken seriously. You don't have to compromise all in the name of getting a favour but then also you need to know just how to interact with people so you get thinks done at the right time and the right place. Just as a local adage puts it, " Famine does not warrant you eating just anything or everything".
